Coaching, Communication, Tips&Tricks

Is It Really “No Big Deal”?

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When someone bothers or offends you, it’s natural to give them the benefit of the doubt and say, “It’s no big deal.” But not so fast.

Next time stop and ask yourself: Am I really unbothered, or am I just trying to avoid conflict?

If your honest answer is the latter, it’s a sign that you should take action. Though speaking up for yourself can be hard, it’s the only way to really resolve the core issue.

Some communication tips to consider:

  • Schedule a time to talk to the offending party or pull them aside for a private conversation.
  • It may be better to let some time pass before you chat, so that you’re less emotionally charged.
  • And seek a conversation, not a confrontation.
  • Treat the whole thing as an opportunity for both of you to learn and grow.

Not everything that triggers an emotional response requires action. But if something really is “no big deal,” chances are you’d say something without hesitation. So, next time you’re inclined to say “It’s no big deal,” stop and consider whether that’s actually true, so you can address things before they really become a big deal.

This tip is inspired by the article “The Problem with Saying ‘It’s No Big Deal’,” by James R. Detert


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Are you interested in personal and/or leadership coaching, view our offerings or book a (free) introductory session to align/ finetune our mutual expectations.

Coaching is possible in English, Dutch and French

Are you interested in personal and/or leadership coaching, view our offerings or book a (free) introductory session to align/ finetune our mutual expectations.

Coaching is possible in English, Dutch and French


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